This blog is an account of my journey with BDSM, particularily M/s relationships, and is based through my opinions and experiences. I suggest reading from the back foward, as i refer back to many things.

Any advice here can be fitting to any D/s relationship, just replace Master with any other description you prefer.





Monday, June 7, 2010

What a Master Does and Gets

A Master/Mistress should provide, either directly, virtually, or through other people (not in any particular order):
Enough play time for His/Her slave
After-care
Protection of the slave
Needed mental and physical care
Enough sexual satisfaction
A safe place to turn for help
Support for basic needs (food, shelter, water, etc, through allowing her to work, providing for her, etc)

A Master/Mistress should, in return, receive from the slave:
Play time, limited only by absolute physical and mental limits (ie slave will fall asleep mid-scene, require medical attention, etc)
Sexual satisfaction, limited as above
Some types of play reserved for, and provided because of the slaves dedication and love. For me, this included pussy torture and pains I do not find pleasurable, among others.
Trust, respect, obedience, devotion
Someone to listen to His/Her problems

Of course, there are other things I may have missed that are vital to the M/s relationship, and this list is of the mature M/s relationship from my perspective. I wanted to get these down as I realized while playing this weekend that there are many things that I do not allow others to do to me. My front side feels extremely vulnerable, and I hate the feelings I get when others do things to my front side, and there are many things I have not tried because of this feeling (like breast/stomach/thigh flogging for example).

I am going to start writing an example of a M/s contract, an interests checklist, and other things I think would be beneficial to a M/s couple, group, or any individual thinking about partaking in one of these relationships. Again, as I am young and have limited perspective, it will be my view of things that will work well in this type of relationship, and will include tips for both Master/Mistress and slave to help fulfill the other partner(s) needs.

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